If we see the questions on the Interviewing message board we can see that it shown some of our readers’ difficulties in getting a search after leaving or losing a job. But according to me it is useful for us to start at the beginning.

One thing is very clear about the new millennium work culture: that nearly all wok is now short term, frequently even careers themselves. You have to change yourself whether this change suits you or not. If we see the current statistics then we can say that the average job is only about three to four years now, a rather dramatic change from 15 years ago when the average was about 10 years.

It is good to understand in advance that there will be emotional ups and down, most importantly during the first few days of you’re joining. This journey will include depression, apathy, denial, anger, and then some more anger. Everyone goes through this stage to one degree or another, and I don’t believe that why people don’t believe this.

It is not good to call everyone you know and start sending out resumes, answering ads, and calling recruiters. Because most of the times you are not prepared for the start a search after a separation. Don’t do a job search “on the rebound”. You’ll probably say things that you will wish you hadn’t. But it is good to share your true feelings about the situation with only a few people- maybe your close friends or your family members. You don’t want everyone to avoid you (“Uh oh, here comes the whiner…”). Now is the time to adopt the marketing stance that your career – no matter how you perceive the reality – has been sunshine, light, and success. And you want everyone to know about those successes.

Networking is not calling to everyone you know. Networking is indirect relationship building, quite a different thing.

It is good to develop a target, in my private practice, I was deluged with people announcing, ” I want to be in TV.” I never knew what that meant…did it mean television repair? If you want to develop a target it is the beginning of your job search. What is the job function – specifically? What is the desired culture? Geographic location? Size of organization? Do you want to start your own business? Consult? Do you have Dot-com-Virus? This may all involve some extensive self-assessment, with or without outside assistance – but it’s necessary.

And then, of course, you need to research your target

It is good to stick on the marketing plans which you have created. Work the system; there are no shortcuts, except for the occasional bolt of lightning. Discipline and consistency this two things account for a lot in this process.

If you are really serious listening while developing those relationships, your target might adjust and shift.

Losing or leaving your job doesn’t mean that you are carrying the stigma it used to, except in your own mind. Its part of the culture now. And everyone has to admit this thing that everyone has to go through this process one day.

Losing or leaving your job doesn’t mean that carry the stigma it used to, except in your own mind. It’s a part of the culture now. Everyone believes this or not that everyone has to go through this stage one day.

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